1GOD HAS A LOVE LANGUAGE FOR US, BUT IT’S NOT WHAT WE’VE BEEN TOLD.

We’ve been told by modern psychology that there are 5 primary love languages of how human beings like to be loved: words of affirmation, gifts, physical affection, time and acts of service. If you want to love/be loved well, so the theory goes, then figure out which top one or two of these is our own best definition of love and then…love/ask for love in that way. While figuring this out can bring a smile to your loved one’s face, the real question for followers of Jesus Christ is: “Are these Jesus’ love languages?

When we look at the life of Jesus, we discover God has a different love language. Jesus doesn’t primarily model/teach 5 love languages. Instead, he gave us 6 ways to follow/experience sacrificial love that would spiritually change us and change those around us (which our church is attempting w/gracious success and revealing failure!):

> LOVE LANGUAGE #1: LOVING/RECONCILING WITH THOSE WHO HATE YOU  [Matthew 5:10,11,21-24;43-47]

> LOVE LANGUAGE #2: EMBRACE THE POOR  [Luke 14:12-14]

> LOVE LANGUAGE #3: BECOMING A SLAVE/SERVANT TO OTHER BELIEVERS  [John 13:1,12-17; 1 John 4:12]

> LOVE LANGUAGE #4: SHARING THE GOSPEL WITH THOSE WHO ARE LOST  [Matthew 28:18-20]

> LOVE LANGUAGE #5: OBEYING GOD’S COMMANDS AS A SIGN OF YOUR LOVE FOR HIM  [John 14:23,24]

> LOVE LANGUAGE #6: SACRIFICING YOUR $$ FOR GOD’S KINGDOM [Matthew 6:24]

EPILOGUE: The amazing thing about Jesus is that he not only models/commands his followers to practice this type of love, but that he also makes this type of love possible through the power of the Holy Spirit within us [Rom. 5:5; Galatians 5:22-25; 1 John 4:12]. It is in this last statement that Jesus is set apart from every other teacher ever to walk the planet. When we submit ourselves to Him by choosing to follow and obey, He lives through us to love through his love, not our own. When we do, He heals us and changes us. What kind of testimony would the church have towards herself/world if we were to love by Jesus’ love language?